Feburary is the Month of Love and all I hear is complaints about it, commercials that say its better to have coffee and doughnuts than actual love. Although Romance is fun, adventurous and exciting, we tend to neglect the work part of Love, we have also become disillusioned about what Love really is. After coming off of the emotional high we feel when we first fall in love, we wake up and realize that our partners are not Prince Charming or The Woman of our Dreams-they now have become the obstacle to our happiness. We realize that they come with personality flaws, requirements, and irratating habits. Love takes work, self-discipline, and commitment. At the root of Love is the Spirit of Giving, it's something you do for others. Love is a Choice as is Forgiveness. Love dissolves the feelings of resentment and pain, while forgiveness of past misdeeds creates a pathway to a brighter future together. We are all doing what we have been programmed to do until we decide to make a conscious choice to do differently. The intention behind Love is not getting something we want but it is doing something for the well-being of the one we love and in return we receive love back.
Our basic fundamental emotional need for security, self-worth, affection and significance in this world is the motivating factor in finding Love. When we find a person who meets these needs our bodies become euphoric. We can't get enough of the person and then as time passes, we wish the person would just get away from us. We feel as if we have finally arrived and the loneliness and depression of the past is over, we believe that this person will forever take care of our needs because they Love us. We forget that life is about growth and development and that both of our needs will change as our responsibilities become greater. This is where choice comes in. We must choose to make our partners happy, we must work at learning what our partner considers Acts of Love and act on them.
FYI-feelings of loneliness and depression stem from a Lack of Self Love. You must first feel secure with who you are, have high self-worth because you are a Child of the Most High, and a belief that your presence in this world is very important with or without a partner. It is best you have Self Love before moving on to loving others because loneliness and depression will always return once the body stops producing the euphoric feelings in the beginning of a relationship. Scientist say this instinctive euphoric feeling usually last for 2 years and anything after that must be a Conscious Choice to Love.
Each person gives and receives Love differently. Some believe love is expressed by words, some by actions, and some by behavior. You must figure out how your partner receives Love (hint-whatever they are complaining about is a clue). There are 5 ways people speak and understand emotional love-Praise and Encouragement, Intimacy and Physical Touching, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Spending Quality Time. It is vital to understand how your partner registers Love and fulfilling that need must be intentional and an act from the heart, this creates a need in your partner to do the same for you. You may be saying "yeah but I do so much already and my partner doesn't do anything for me." You may be doing all those things but they are how you've been programmed to show love not how your partner is programmed to receive love. Each partner must understand and act on fulfilling each other's Love Tank. Each day is a new day to Build on Love. Each day is Gift to Give Love and Receive Love. Decide to Show Yourself and Others Love Today.
Peace, Love and Blessings!!!
